Early stages dating men
He likes you a lot — in fact, has nursed a crush on you for years — but suddenly finds himself allergic to your high-functioning alcoholism that he’s just discovered. If you want fling and he’s thinking ring, there’s no .
Or, 95.4% of the time, he’s just thinking, hey, there’s an outside chance I could get laid here. If you want steady boyfriend leading to marriage and 2.3 kids and he wants Wednesday Arm Candy #3, we have a mismatch.
Most non-sociopathic men aren’t out to deliberately hurt women.
There was the super sweet, cute Midwestern girl in med school whom I tried so hard to charm.
And then I didn’t know what to do with her when she made those doe eyes at me and said she was really, really, really looking forward to hanging out again. I can’t feel great about these stories since the experience for these ladies was probably not hugely validating.
One saving grace is that most people, male or female, usually aren’t doing this stuff deliberately.
It’s more accurate to attribute this kind of behavior to cluelessness rather than malice, with also makes it easier on you.